Trusting god in dating relationships
If we are not careful, singleness can challenge our self-worth because of thoughts like…
“if I’m not in a relationship then whats wrong with me?
First of all, happiness is an emotion that is fleeting… He said I am your God and you should have no other gods beside me . Listen, anything good can turn into an idol if our desire for that thing is in the place of God. If we can’t come to terms with God being the love of our life and being content with just Him and accept that He alone is enough.we will never be truly happy. We’ll always be searching..we’ll be disappointed because that relationship that we thought would be everything won’t bring us the fulfillment and that longing we desperately thought it would. It’s because it was not designed to fulfill us completely and it never will. We will end up destroying the relationship that God finally does establish for us because of our unrealistic expectations and the pressure we put on someone else to fill void that was meant for God.
and it’s too much pressure on one person to be responsible for our happiness. He knows when we just trying to get something out of Him. Seeking satisfaction and fulfillment in someone or something else goes against that. Whether that thing be a relationship, a job, school, our kids, whatever.it comes before what God calls us to do..it’s an idol. Sis…you are so much greater, Trust God and focus on your assignment.
As a result, we chase this dream of happiness we believe it will bring us to the point we are even willing to compromise or settle. Well If God tells us there is a season that He does not want us in one.may question God. Secondly, we are not here for one another’s pleasure. Granted if He intended for us to be with someone, happiness will be a benefit of the relationship that seeks to do things God’s way. Therefore, He wants to rob our contentment in God; destroy our relationship with God and kill our spirit’s intention or desire to please God. Well, he insidiously glorify these relationships as it is our ultimate goal in achieving true happiness. When a relationship consumes you when you’re in it, when satisfying your flesh is more important than kingdom work, when it serves no purpose or when God tells you to let go and you hold on, then baby girl, its an idol. I had a hard time accepting this..because I was in denial. if that was true then I should have no problem letting go and trusting Him when He asks me to. Now more than ever, when we don’t do that, we begin to distance ourselves from God and worst we harbor seeds of resentment and we become angry at God when we see others around us that is not serving Him like we think we are, yet they have what we want. If it is God’s intention to connect you with someone, then it still won’t be about you.about His glory. But I am at the place that if it’s not His plans for me, I am okay with it.