Racism and dating
Based on data published by Ok Trends, a blog produced by Ok Cupid, white gay men respond more often to Ok Cupid messages from other white men than from men of color.They respond to messages from other white men 44% of the time but respond only 37.3% of the time to men of color.These data illustrate that one’s race/ethnicity affects one’s romantic and sexual value in queer communities. Ok Cupid’s data sheds light on casual racism in queer online dating communities, but overt racism is also prevalent.Blogs like “Douchebags of Grindr,” though insensitively titled, point out overtly racist headlines gay men post on their Grindr profiles such as “no blacks” or “white only.” Often, white men attempt to minimize the social harm of their overt racism by claiming their comments are merely “preferences.” But these so-called preferences cause significant harm.But in online dating profiles he uses a common English first name and an Italian surname.
One queer man of color I know is half-Indian and half-Italian with a common Indian name.
In the 21st century, a lot has changed in attitudes towards people from different races: no child would run away from seeing a black man on the street and comments like my grandmother’s have become at least remarkable.