Dating for kids
I think that for dating where one person is picking the other up, 16 is obvious because that is the driving age.But my personal opinion is that if they want to go to a movie or other activity together, and a parent will drop them off and pick them up from that activity, I think 13 or 14 is perfectly Ok.In the past, a young man, usually a teenage boy, would come to a teenage girl's house and take her on an actual date which might include something like a movie AND a curfew. Middle schoolers sometimes say they are dating when actually all they are doing is texting or even communicating via Facebook or in some other electronic manner.Teens in high school may define dating as being exclusive with each other physically which means that they don't "hook-up" with anyone else.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to not make your parents upset and nothing wrong with focusing on school either.Make sure to act interested but not too interested in your teen's dating life with the hope that they will open up to you if they run into difficulties. Friends are marginally ok but not romance of any sort. If they don't experiment, they won't know how a relationship works in the real world.